Have you ever noticed how some people don’t feel good unless they feel bad? I think it’s an energy thing. We are, at our core, a walking pool of bio-electric energy and research has shown that how we feel affects our heart. And since our heart emits electro-magnetic waves, we have the capacity to connect with other people by just feeling. Ever notice how being around an Eeyore type person saps all your strength?
Once again, science has proved some of my favorite “woo-woo” theories to be true! The Heart Math Institute has done studies that have proved that our hearts emit energy so strong that it can affect people around us. And since our hearts can be affected by our emotions, how we feel can literally either bring those around us “up” or “down.” Crazy!
K and I had a great experience at the I Can Do It conference in Las Vegas a couple of years ago. “Let’s do it!” she said one day during our daily phone-a-thon. “Let’s go to I Can Do It.” So, we did. It was amazing! Now, K has talked about what a great feeling it is to go to an Abraham-Hicks workshop, and be in a room with 500 like-minded people. At I Can Do It, there are literally thousands. Talk about electricity! Plus, the whole event ‘s like an all-star lineup of all our favorite gurus: Louise L. Hay, Colette Baron Reid, Doreen Virtue, Sonia Choquette, Wayne Dyer, you name it.
After K and I heard Darren Weissman on the main stage, we decided to attend his break-out session. In case you don’t know, DW has developed a program of love and healing, called “Infinite Love and Gratitude.” So worth checking out!
In the break-out session, the first thing Dr. Darren did, was have all 200 people in the room get out of their chairs and form a giant circle around the perimeter of the room. “We’re all connected,” he said. To prove it, he had everyone hold hands. Between Dr. D and the person next to him, he held up his daughter’s doll, a battery-operated doll that is “wired” to say sweet things like “I love you” when a circuit is completed, usually by a little girl holding the doll’s two hands with her own. In our case, it was a room full of people, connected one to the other, all the way around the room. Once everyone was holding hands, Dr. D completed the circuit by touching the doll’s hand. “I love you,” she said. It was amazing! Hold hands: I love you. Stop connecting: no mas I love you.
So the way I see it, we have a choice. We can stay in a rut of looking at the “bad” things around us, grasping at straws of unhappiness, or we can connect, and share the “I love you.” Love, C
My two cents: life happens. Be happy anyway!
A few weeks ago C and I were talking about why people are so attached to being unhappy, negative or angry. You can’t be human and not feel the pull of negativity sometimes, right? Don’t we all know someone, who, every time you’re around them you, feel like they sucked the life right out of you? I have thought about this more times than I can remember. Why does re-telling the story of what went wrong, over and over feel so compelling? Why does feeling angry feel so good when it is supposed to be a bad thing?
There have been times in the past, when I have been so angry and just gone off, and in the middle of it thought, what am I doing? You are being a crazy person ranting and raving, what purpose is this going to serve? But at the same time it just felt so good I couldn’t stop myself, and really, I didn’t want to. It felt so good to get it off my chest or give that person the what-for –I was justified, right?
I have to say this stumped me for years, whether it was me expressing my frustration and anger or being on the receiving end or someone else’s wrath. Why does it feel so good to feel so bad?
Is it “misery loves company” . . .or is our story how we bond with others. . .whether it’s via online chat groups, or in the break room at work? What about when there’s a global disaster such as 9/11, or Haiti, or the BP oil spill? It’s us against them. Is unhappiness is the only way we can feel connected?
Something I found helpful is what Abraham-Hicks calls the “Emotional Guidance Scale.”
The Emotional Guidance Scale
The idea here is to find out where you are on the scale and work your way up. Going up feels better, going down feels worse. So if you’ve been hanging around at #22 (feeling depressed or powerless), jumping up to #17 (anger) feels pretty good. Wow, now that makes sense.
The problem is most of the time people don’t like you angry so they try to talk you down from it, diffuse the situation. No one realizes that the anger you’re now feeling is better than the depression you were feeling. Maybe we need to allow people to feel the anger and work through it instead of trying to talk them out of it and pushing them back into depression or helplessness.
Feel what you are feeling, when you are feeling it? What an interesting concept. Maybe if we allowed ourselves and others to do that we would have less random irrational lashing out, road rage, or getting the life sucked out of you when you go into a meeting or have lunch with a friend who’s having a bad day. Just a thought. xo-K
My two cents: You can always find your way to a better feeling place.