You spend a lot of time traveling around in your head. Uh-huh, that’s right. You know what I mean. Forget about going to Paris or Tahiti. You’re traveling around in your head so much, you’re anywhere but here. You probably log in more travel miles in five minutes that you spent on your actual vacation last year! You’re not alone. We all do it. It’s neither good nor bad, it’s just not an effective way to live. In case it matters.
Now. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we’re always thinking about something that happened six years ago or something someone said yesterday or what we wish we said when that happened or what we’re afraid might happen tomorrow. Sound familiar? We’re almost never fully present where we are, right now. It gets even more complicated, when you start listing the ideas that really matter to you. Take love, for instance. Where are you with that? The last guy, the one before him? Your first crush? Chances are, on this one topic, you’re anywhere but here. Now.
Please. I am so not perfect. I just bring it up because it’s what I’m working on.
Our teacher, Abraham-Hicks says that focusing your thoughts for 68 seconds is enough to begin attracting the object of your attention into your world. Cool! Scary!
As much as I try to work on being present in the moment, I catch myself doing one thing and thinking something else. What’s wrong with that, you say. Isn’t multi-tasking a good thing, you say? It depends. If thoughts are like dollars, and you get what you “invest” your thoughts in but toss out pennies for every passing idea that floats by that space behind your eyes, you’re not really placing any value, or focused thought, on any one thing. Nothing wrong with that. Unless there’s something you’d like to change about your life, or bring in, or have. This takes practice. But like any new skill, you can achieve single-minded focus with practice. If it’s true that you create your future by your thoughts now, you gotta pay attention to your thoughts minute by minute.
I know, I know, easier said than done. I have a favorite new online guru. Stephen Russell goes by the name Barefoot Doctor and has lots of Zen wisdom to share. He’s also a music producer, so he offers these amazing online meditation pods that are crazy-transcendent. Anyway, as much as I sit down and plug in with the intention of listening placidly to one of the good Doctor’s guided meditations, I inevitably catch myself wandering around in my head. Darn! There I am, working on getting all Zen and yummy and grounded, and there I am, re-running a conversation from last week. Gah! Makes me wonder how much time any of us spend right here, right NOW. I’m working on it, baby! Love, C
My two cents: You want a future relationship? Pay attention to what you’re thinking NOW.
So, what the heck are you thinking? In The Secret, Michael Beckwith says,”Thoughts Are Things.” Abraham-hicks says, “You get what you think about whether you want it or not, AND what manifests is always a perfect indication of what you’ve had going vibrationally.” Wait, what??
For the last few years I have been really staying conscious of my thoughts, where they are going and what ends up manifesting, and I can tell you this advice is spot on. Plus, the more you are aware of it, the faster it seems to happen. Sometimes when I am working with a client, doing their hair, I almost feel like a psychic. I can listen to how they are talking and know, what they will be telling me when they come back in 4 or 6 weeks just by what they are putting out there right now. They will go on and on about what they don’t want, and guess what? Next time I see them that is exactly what has happened.
So for me, I practice thinking the thought that I want. When my mind goes off to a problem, and it does from time to time, it is so obvious to me that if I want to go there, I will get results I don’t want.
This is so funny: as I’m writing this, my Blackberry is buzzing. I just got an e-mail from The Secret Daily Teachings, I get those every month or so, and what it says is “Whatever feelings you have within you are attracting your tomorrow. Worry attracts more worry. Anxiety attracts more anxiety. Unhappiness attracts more unhappiness. Dissatisfaction attracts more dissatisfaction. AND… Joy attracts more joy. Happiness attracts more happiness. Peace attracts more peace. Gratitude attracts more gratitude. Love attracts more love”. It goes on and on. The point being: focus on what you want and it will come in, whether you like it or not. So seek out things/thoughts, that bring you joy. Focus on what you love and let the worry and problems take care of themselves.
Things always work out in the end, they really do. You just get to choose whether you worry and stress out and they work out, or you relax, have fun, be in joy, and they work out. Your choice. Remember, life is supposed to be fun! xo-K
My two cents: Regarding relationships or anything else you want in life, If you have the wherewithal to want it, the Universe has the wherewithal to bring it to you.