For the last six months, I’ve been driving traffic to Two Girls via craigslist. Well, I might have broken a rule or two. You’re not supposed to post the same message in more than one city, but um, I might have done that once or twice. Ironically, that’s not what got me banned. What got me put in the deep freeze is that a person or persons in a very liberal San Francisco suburb which shall go unnamed, “flagged” me each time I posted to that community.
I know, I know, I shouldn’t have kept poking that hornet’s nest with a stick, but come on! So why did this uber-progressive community have a problem with Two Girls? Couldn’t have been the blog itself. If the purity police had bothered to click on the link I provided and actually read a blog entry by Two Girls, they would have seen that we are a spiritually positive, family-friendly place to hang out. But I don’t think they got that far. I think their cultural prejudice kicked in before they read even one sentence that Two Girls had to share. No, I think they based their bias on the name. Really?
Yep, Two Girls Take on Love has many implications. I don’t need to be specific, you know what I mean. K and I learned that early on, when reading stats on our admin page. You can actually see what kind of search words people plug into their browsers to find websites. Some of the phrases that people used that got them directed to TGTOL were downright nasty. Ick! Ick!
We were so creeped out by what people were looking for related to two girls, we actually lobbied WordPress to change the design of their admin pages. Well truthfully, it was K. She fired off a couple of rip-snorting emails that got the attention of the web masters, and they changed the design of the page so that we can “hide” or “show” the search engine reports. Nice!
Back to Two Girls Take On Love. It’s who we are, and we don’t apologize for it. Banned from craigslist? Bring it. Love, C
My two cents: never apologize for your dazzling light!
Ahh, craigslist, where anyone can post pretty much anything, except us. I think it’s hysterical.
When C and I first started Two girls it wasn’t even Two girls it was just us, wanting to do something meaningful together, wanting to share all we have learned along the way to where we are, and not really knowing how to do it and what it would be if we did it and who if anyone, would even care.
We basically started writing our phone conversations, or maybe just the idea of our conversations. Then, once we had something, we didn’t really feel comfortable telling our friends about what we were doing, heck we didn’t even know what we were doing yet. And I’m sorry, you could have the best friends in the world, which we both do, but how do you explain that you are writing a blog about love, when you, a) don’t really know what you are doing and b) some of your friends could argue that you are probably the last person who should be writing about love.
Once we had a few posts under our belts and we were feeling like something was happening here, we wanted to put it out there. C got the idea to toss it out to craigslist. Awesome, we got responses, we got great feedback, people seemed to love us and then the powers that be. . .well I guess they didn’t.
One of the most important things C and I have learned throughout this process is don’t push against what’s not working. If something isn’t working there’s a reason, so go with it and be open to another way. I think it’s human nature to try to fix something that is perceived to be broken. It was working and now it’s not, we gotta go back in time and see where it went wrong and get it right. You can do that I guess, but I’ve got about a thousand examples of that not working.
So back to craigslist, I think it was great, it served a purpose but now it’s time to move on. We have found better more effective ways to promote and share our stories. Could we go up against craigslist, fight for our right to say what we want to say? We could, but it is just too much wasted energy, energy that could go toward something way more fun and productive. xo-K
My two cents: the sooner you come to peace with that one door closing, the faster the next door will open.