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don’t get mad. . .get furious!

Grr! I had one of those days, you know? My car (leased) had a leak last spring. I live in the rain belt, and was driving around one day after a crazy end-of-times downpour and heard water sloshing around inside the car. What?  After a couple of days, the water noise persisted, so I drove into the dealership, where they discovered that a drainage tube from my sunroof had malfunctioned, and instead of draining outside the car, was pouring water into the passenger side of the car. Seriously?

Recently, I noticed a funky, spoiled milk smell in the car. So today when I delivered my car to the dealer for an oil change, I asked them to check it out. I waited all day, then called the service department to get a status report. After sitting on hold for a suspiciously long time, a guy came on and said they were “just finishing up.”  Really? “What about the leak?” I asked. More time on hold. Well, the upshot is that there is in fact, a leak and while they haven’t exactly pinpointed it, they can’t fix it today because the guy who can authorize the extra-special work is out of town. Oi.

According to the all-seeing Google, my dealership is exactly 2.1 miles from where I work. So I went to a co-worker’s office, where my boss was also hanging. “What’s up,” my boss asked. “I need a ride,” I replied. “My car got serviced today and they didn’t fix it, but I need to pick it up.” Now, I swear to God, this is what happened: the co-worker hunched his shoulders and stared even harder at his computer screen. My boss looked at me and said “wow, that’s too bad,” and walked away.

Seriously?  “Eff that,” I said to myself, and called a cab.  Then naturally, I called K. “Don’t get all spiritual about it,” K advised, “get mad!” So I did. We both blew off steam together, and it felt really good! We ended up laughing because we just kept getting more outrageous about expressing our various reasons for being royally pissed off. You know what? I’m clear now, instead of being in a stew. Thank you, stupid co-workers! Love, C

My two cents: pushing down your feelings is like pushing a beach  ball under water — they’ll just pop up again and again until you resolve them.

♥♥♥

Anger is a valid emotion.  It is in about the middle of the emotional guidance scale I mentioned a few posts back, but we all, for some reason have some issues when we or someone we know gets “angry.” Whether we think we are not entitled to being angry, or as C said before, it’s not spiritual to be angry, anger has been coming up for me and when something keeps showing up. . .there is something there for me to learn.

When you don’t own your feelings, when you don’t honor the fact that you have the right to feel however you feel,  you are doing a disservice to yourself.  If you don’t have your own back, OMG, well that’s a recipe for depression.  We all have the right to feel how we feel.  And if someone does something mean or stupid, well. . . you can be pissed about it! Then let it go.

I can tell you that is 100 percent true.  When we first started writing this post, C was dumbfounded by the complete insensitivity she experienced at work.  I on the other hand was mad at my mom.  We both kinda went off and vented big time.  It felt good, felt clear, I started writing kinda in the middle of all that and then had to go pick up kids or something so I just figured I would go back to this where I left off, but I couldn’t.  I tried twice, we even started a whole other post and I still couldn’t get back to this one, until today. . .   and it just hit me,  since I had released the anger, vented with C, it was gone.  I wasn’t angry anymore so I couldn’t call it back up and continue with the post with the same energy.

That’s the beauty of feeling your feelings, getting furious if that’s how you are feeling in the moment.  Once you get it out, it’s done.  Over.  Awesome!  Sure, you might get mad again, but you won’t go bonkers if someone cuts you off in traffic.You already let all the people from the last month or your whole lifetime, have a pass, which means you don’t have to vent now.  Wow! See? It works out for everyone.  xo-K

My two cents:  everything is energy, and everything has value, even anger.

 

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you probably think this blog is about you

Everyone loves Two Girls!!  I am shocked, amazed, awestruck, amused and most of all grateful.  C and I have always written from the heart, and we usually write about what is happening. . . right now.  That being said, everyone who comes in contact with us is potentially Two Girls material.  As much as we try to mix it up, people might come to the conclusion that  we are talking about them in our blog.  This has happen to me on more than one occasion.

Sometimes we talk about dating and relationships, and C, who btw,  in the past hadn’t  shared much of her personal info when she is dating someone new, is now much more open and lets  her dates know who she is and what she does, including the fact that she writes a blog. This is great, but sometimes  I think, don’t tell them… I want to write about them and now they will totally know we’re talking about them. That being said we  have to be a bit creative when we are telling our story as to not incriminate or hurt feelings.

I have heard from quite a few friends and fans of Two Girls when a post really resonated with them, that they were going through something and then read our most recent post and it was about just the thing they were working through.  I love when that happens.  See: we are all more alike than we are different.

We all want to love and be loved.  We all want health and prosperity for ourselves, our family, and our friends.  We have all dealt with heartache, loss, and disappointment. We have all been afraid.  Lost a job or a loved one.  Or maybe just had a crappy day.  Oh, and don’t get me started on Mercury Retrograde.  We all just want to be happy and have a joy filled life.

September has been a hard month.  There’s a lot going on energetically, it is a great time for releasing, so when stuff comes up for you (and it will), make sure you have someone to work through it with.  Oh, and if you want to be part of  Two Girls, we’d love to have you.  Leave us a comment. Maybe you have something to share that would be beneficial for others to hear.  xo-K

My two cents:  If you think this blog is about you, it is probably for you.

♥♥♥

Yeah, K and I have been working on these principles for a while.  We talk about this stuff for hours.  As time goes by it’s become more and more clear that: a) we’re kinda getting better at it even though we have a ways to go, and b) we  totally see these principles at work in our lives and the lives of those around us. Cool!

It’s so true: we need each other. Not just me and K — all of us. We need each other! Not just for sex and safety and survival, and all that primal stuff. We need each other so that we can see each other, see our own Divine spark reflected back in someone’s eyes.  My blog partner and I are mirrors for each other through the good, the bad, and the ugly. . .and then we blog about it.

Yeah, if you know us, chances are that you’ll show up on the “pages” of Two Girls. Not that you will recognize yourself, because that would just not be fair. When we have written about someone without disguise, they knew about it ahead of time and agreed to it.   I have already gone on record that as a writer, my style could be called voyeur. I watch. I watch people, I observe the world.  And then I tell stories.  I know for me, the best part of camping is certainly not the bugs and the dirt . . .it’s the stories around the campfire. Well, the stories and the s’mores and the stars above.

If you think that you see yourself in one of our stories, rest assured you’re not the only one. Are we psychic? Well yeah, sure. But more to the point, we are all sharing an experience here on this groovy little planet and as much as we sometimes think we are all alone, we are not. Do you remember as a teenager, going through some terribly painful initiation on the path to “growing up,”  and thinking what a freak you were, only to hear something, read something, share your story with a trusted friend, then realize that you weren’t alone? We are not alone. We’ve never been alone.

So are we writing about you? Maybe. But more importantly, does what we write mean something to you? That’s the question. Love, C

My two cents: the Divine in me sees the Divine in you and says: Namaste.

 

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get real

 

It’s so nice to get to the point where you can just be yourself, your authentic self.  Just be real.  After all these years I feel like I’m finally getting close.

I work with all women, and I work in a salon. . . full of mirrors.  Ye gads, that could be a recipe for disaster,  a bunch of women, competing with each other plus seeing every imagined flaw staring back at you for eight+ hours a day.  Sounds like it could put your ego to the test, huh?

Lucky for me I work with some of the most beautiful (inside and out) women I could ever hope to work with.  These girls are real, I have worked in a lot of salons,  and I have to tell you we have an amazing, enlightened group of women and I love them all.  No competition here, everyone is so supportive of each other.  I hope they all realize how rare it is and are as thankful as I am to be a part of such an amazing group.

There are days when I don’t feel so great about myself.  It happens less and less, but it still happens.  Growing older, body changes, sometimes it’s hard to love yourself. Hell, I had a hard time loving myself when I was 25 and everything was still where it was supposed to be.  It’s sad to think about that.

  I have decided that I don’t want to be hard on myself, looking at so -called  flaws that are so not who I am.  I want to look at who I really am, a great mom, a great friend, a great stylist, a great person, but even those thing are just a small part of who I am.

We all need to remember, we are not our bodies, we are not what we do for a living, how much money we have, where we live or who we’re married to.  I am  starting to feel like who I really am, the real me, is finally starting to emerge and  I’m looking forward to all the wonderful things life has in store for me.  xo-K

My two cents:  Learn to look in the mirror and see your soul.  There is so much more to you than meets the eye.

♥♥♥

I went to the coast the other day and visited a couple of glass blowing studios. It was amazing! In order to make beautiful, fragile, transparent bowls, vases, lamps, an artist takes a blob of silica, and shoves it into a two thousand degree furnace, and fires it up, red hot. And then after working with it a while, shaping it with tools, reinserting the transforming glass back into the blazing, white hot furnace, he pulls it out of the fire and lets it cool. In the end, all that heat and stress and creative energy results in an exquisitely strong, yet breathtakingly fragile work of art.

I think we are all like that. We’ve been talking lately about our stories, and this made me wonder: what if our stories, the “things that happen” are the fire that shapes our soul into  precious works of art that we can’t even see? Wow!

Every day, we have the chance to look at ourselves and see those extra pounds, the breasts that maybe aren’t as perfect as they were when we were 2o, a few lines that weren’t there yesterday, swear! These are the fires of our shaping.

One of the things I will be forever grateful to K for is encouraging me to study esthetics.  That education not only taught me the basics of great skin care, it taught me to understand beauty, real beauty.  Sometimes beauty is perfection. Sometimes, beauty is a collection of flaws so unique, they create something completely original and fabulous.

Those who work in the beauty business know a little secret that seems to elude about 99.999% of the rest of us: we are all beautiful in our own way. Hey! There is a reason  we women love our salon time. It’s because we get to spend time surrounded by goddess energy! You have to try really hard to walk away from your monthly salon treatment feeling bad about yourself. It’s not that it can’t be done, mind you, but you have to swim upstream against the mighty waters of innate goddess beauty perfection to get there.

We are all works of art in our own way and how we get there is 100 percent a gift from the universe and my mama always taught me that when someone gives you a gift, all you have to say is: thank you. Love, C

My two cents: Just for today, I will love and appreciate the fires that have formed me.

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get real

 

It’s so nice to get to the point where you can just be yourself, your authentic self.  Just be real.  After all these years I feel like I’m finally getting close.

I work with all women, and I work in a salon. . . full of mirrors.  Ye gads, that could be a recipe for disaster,  a bunch of women, competing with each other plus seeing every imagined flaw staring back at you for eight+ hours a day.  Sounds like it could put your ego to the test, huh?

Lucky for me I work with some of the most beautiful (inside and out) women I could ever hope to work with.  These girls are real, I have worked in a lot of salons,  and I have to tell you we have an amazing, enlightened group of women and I love them all.  No competition here, everyone is so supportive of each other.  I hope they all realize how rare it is and are as thankful as I am to be a part of such an amazing group.

There are days when I don’t feel so great about myself.  It happens less and less, but it still happens.  Growing older, body changes, sometimes it’s hard to love yourself. Hell, I had a hard time loving myself when I was 25 and everything was still where it was supposed to be.  It’s sad to think about that.

  I have decided that I don’t want to be hard on myself, looking at so -called  flaws that are so not who I am.  I want to look at who I really am, a great mom, a great friend, a great stylist, a great person, but even those thing are just a small part of who I am.

We all need to remember, we are not our bodies, we are not what we do for a living, how much money we have, where we live or who we’re married to.  I am  starting to feel like who I really am, the real me, is finally starting to emerge and  I’m looking forward to all the wonderful things life has in store for me.  xo-K

My two cents:  Learn to look in the mirror and see your soul.  There is so much more to you than meets the eye.

♥♥♥

I went to the coast the other day and visited a couple of glass blowing studios. It was amazing! In order to make beautiful, fragile, transparent bowls, vases, lamps, an artist takes a blob of silica, and shoves it into a two thousand degree furnace, and fires it up, red hot. And then after working with it a while, shaping it with tools, reinserting the transforming glass back into the blazing, white hot furnace, he pulls it out of the fire and lets it cool. In the end, all that heat and stress and creative energy results in an exquisitely strong, yet breathtakingly fragile work of art.

I think we are all like that. We’ve been talking lately about our stories, and this made me wonder: what if our stories, the “things that happen” are the fire that shapes our soul into  precious works of art that we can’t even see? Wow!

Every day, we have the chance to look at ourselves and see those extra pounds, the breasts that maybe aren’t as perfect as they were when we were 2o, a few lines that weren’t there yesterday, swear! These are the fires of our shaping.

One of the things I will be forever grateful to K for is encouraging me to study esthetics.  That education not only taught me the basics of great skin care, it taught me to understand beauty, real beauty.  Sometimes beauty is perfection. Sometimes, beauty is a collection of flaws so unique, they create something completely original and fabulous.

Those who work in the beauty business know a little secret that seems to elude about 99.999% of the rest of us: we are all beautiful in our own way. Hey! There is a reason  we women love our salon time. It’s because we get to spend time surrounded by goddess energy! You have to try really hard to walk away from your monthly salon treatment feeling bad about yourself. It’s not that it can’t be done, mind you, but you have to swim upstream against the mighty waters of innate goddess beauty perfection to get there.

We are all works of art in our own way and how we get there is 100 percent a gift from the universe and my mama always taught me that when someone gives you a gift, all you have to say is: thank you. Love, C

My two cents: Just for today, I will love and appreciate the fires that have formed me.

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unreal

I love jumping feet first into something others may consider unreal. Take for instance, acupuncture. There was a time,when I lived in Pennsylvania with Amish neighbors to one side, and a Dutch tobacco trader on the other. Back then, I was experiencing both insomnia and an irregular cycle. Also maybe of significance, Haley’s comet hung in the sky, like a bridal veil in my sleepless early mornings. What else could I do? I went to an acupuncturist. She cured both the  off-cycle and the sleeplessness with tiny needles, strategically placed.

According to some sources, there is no anatomical or medical reason for acupuncture points or meridians. Some sources suggest that is is all mind over matter. But I had no agenda or belief whether or not the needles would work, they just did; my periods snapped back into sync, and I stopped waking in the night to stare at the comet. End of story. Sort of.  There are many things that work for no apparent reason. Hypnosis. Astrology. Quantum physics.

A couple of years ago, a friend of a friend introduced me to “this tapping craze.” Actually, it’s called Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, or simply, Tapping. Critics call it a pseudo-science. Naysayers insist that it creates a placebo effect, “fooling” gullible people into thinking they’ve been “cured” of whatever condition they’ve imagined. Skeptics say it isn’t “real” because it can’t  be tested scientifically. Whatev. I just listened to a noted physicist say that based on new scientific evidence about the nature of matter in the universe, practically everything printed in any science books up to now, is wrong. Just sayin.’

EFT works on the same principles as acupuncture, that is, working with the body’s energy meridians, to release false beliefs that lock ideas into the body at a cellular level. So anyway, there I was, bopping around YouTube a couple of weeks ago, and discovered a guy named Brad Yates, posting little ten minute vids on various tapping topics. I really liked his style and his casual sense of humor (code: the guy doesn’t take himself too seriously), and I especially like the fact that he has worked with Joe Vitale, of The Secret, so the guy runs in crowds that I know and respect. So I started tapping. Every morning, every night. I was telling K one day that I was tapping merrily along with Bad Brad one day, and I don’t even remember the topic, but suddenly, I started to get all emotional. I hadn’t realized that I had any “stuff” around what we were tapping about, but apparently, my body knew differently.

So, does EFT “really” work? For me it does. For now. Is it a cure all? Probably not, but it is a tool, and as long as I feel I’m getting results and no one is getting hurt, I’ll be tap-tap-tapping away. Love, C

My two cents: having an open mind can take you places you never dreamed of before!

♥♥♥

Who can say what’s real and what’s not?  I am at a point where if something shows up for me,  and I notice it, there’s a reason and there is probably something in it for me.  I had never heard of “tapping” before C started talking about it a few weeks ago.  I am always game to try something new, and since there were affirmations involved I figured it must be somewhat helpful and uplifting, right?

I have to admit, the first few times I watched Tappin’ Brad on YouTube I felt kinda silly, trying to keep up with the tapping patterns felt a little like learning to line dance or something  for the first time; turning left while everyone else is turning right.  But then maybe that’s the idea. Besides hitting the meridian points while tapping, which I’m sure does something, the tapping is a distraction, or at least it is to me.  When I am repeating after Brad that I am amazing and prosperous, my mind is not screaming, “no you’re not!” I’m so busy trying to follow along with his tapping sequence, the affirmations slip right in and  my mind isn’t arguing  the point. Brilliant. Not to mention that I actually feel really good after a few minutes of tapping and affirming. And that works for me, no matter what science has to say about it.

So maybe we just need to do whatever works for us and not worry so much about what other people think or say about it.  Don’t worry that it looks silly or others think it is a bunch of hocus pocus, you might just be onto something new.  I have been telling my dad for years: “You need to learn to relax, you need to breathe, you should learn to meditate.”  My father has heart disease so stress and worry are not his friends. Not until his HMO started promoting relaxation and meditation did he start to think that there might be something to what I have been telling him.  He has always thought I was just a little too out there and that I didn’t know anything. Whatever.

So what do you believe in?  Are you open to new  ideas?  The world is transforming  fast and it’s a good thing, really it is.  I know for me, I am going to keep learning, keep expanding, and whether I am tapping, or chanting, or just being still and breathing, I am going to keep my mind open to all the good that is coming to me.  xo-K

My two cents:   “Strawberry fields, nothing is real, and nothing to get hung about.” ~The Beatles.


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unreal

I love jumping feet first into something others may consider unreal. Take for instance, acupuncture. There was a time,when I lived in Pennsylvania with Amish neighbors to one side, and a Dutch tobacco trader on the other. Back then, I was experiencing both insomnia and an irregular cycle. Also maybe of significance, Haley’s comet hung in the sky, like a bridal veil in my sleepless early mornings. What else could I do? I went to an acupuncturist. She cured both the  off-cycle and the sleeplessness with tiny needles, strategically placed.

According to some sources, there is no anatomical or medical reason for acupuncture points or meridians. Some sources suggest that is is all mind over matter. But I had no agenda or belief whether or not the needles would work, they just did; my periods snapped back into sync, and I stopped waking in the night to stare at the comet. End of story. Sort of.  There are many things that work for no apparent reason. Hypnosis. Astrology. Quantum physics.

A couple of years ago, a friend of a friend introduced me to “this tapping craze.” Actually, it’s called Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, or simply, Tapping. Critics call it a pseudo-science. Naysayers insist that it creates a placebo effect, “fooling” gullible people into thinking they’ve been “cured” of whatever condition they’ve imagined. Skeptics say it isn’t “real” because it can’t  be tested scientifically. Whatev. I just listened to a noted physicist say that based on new scientific evidence about the nature of matter in the universe, practically everything printed in any science books up to now, is wrong. Just sayin.’

EFT works on the same principles as acupuncture, that is, working with the body’s energy meridians, to release false beliefs that lock ideas into the body at a cellular level. So anyway, there I was, bopping around YouTube a couple of weeks ago, and discovered a guy named Brad Yates, posting little ten minute vids on various tapping topics. I really liked his style and his casual sense of humor (code: the guy doesn’t take himself too seriously), and I especially like the fact that he has worked with Joe Vitale, of The Secret, so the guy runs in crowds that I know and respect. So I started tapping. Every morning, every night. I was telling K one day that I was tapping merrily along with Bad Brad one day, and I don’t even remember the topic, but suddenly, I started to get all emotional. I hadn’t realized that I had any “stuff” around what we were tapping about, but apparently, my body knew differently.

So, does EFT “really” work? For me it does. For now. Is it a cure all? Probably not, but it is a tool, and as long as I feel I’m getting results and no one is getting hurt, I’ll be tap-tap-tapping away. Love, C

My two cents: having an open mind can take you places you never dreamed of before!

♥♥♥

Who can say what’s real and what’s not?  I am at a point where if something shows up for me,  and I notice it, there’s a reason and there is probably something in it for me.  I had never heard of “tapping” before C started talking about it a few weeks ago.  I am always game to try something new, and since there were affirmations involved I figured it must be somewhat helpful and uplifting, right?

I have to admit, the first few times I watched Tappin’ Brad on YouTube I felt kinda silly, trying to keep up with the tapping patterns felt a little like learning to line dance or something  for the first time; turning left while everyone else is turning right.  But then maybe that’s the idea. Besides hitting the meridian points while tapping, which I’m sure does something, the tapping is a distraction, or at least it is to me.  When I am repeating after Brad that I am amazing and prosperous, my mind is not screaming, “no you’re not!” I’m so busy trying to follow along with his tapping sequence, the affirmations slip right in and  my mind isn’t arguing  the point. Brilliant. Not to mention that I actually feel really good after a few minutes of tapping and affirming. And that works for me, no matter what science has to say about it.

So maybe we just need to do whatever works for us and not worry so much about what other people think or say about it.  Don’t worry that it looks silly or others think it is a bunch of hocus pocus, you might just be onto something new.  I have been telling my dad for years: “You need to learn to relax, you need to breathe, you should learn to meditate.”  My father has heart disease so stress and worry are not his friends. Not until his HMO started promoting relaxation and meditation did he start to think that there might be something to what I have been telling him.  He has always thought I was just a little too out there and that I didn’t know anything. Whatever.

So what do you believe in?  Are you open to new  ideas?  The world is transforming  fast and it’s a good thing, really it is.  I know for me, I am going to keep learning, keep expanding, and whether I am tapping, or chanting, or just being still and breathing, I am going to keep my mind open to all the good that is coming to me.  xo-K

My two cents:   “Strawberry fields, nothing is real, and nothing to get hung about.” ~The Beatles.

 

 


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friendly, helpful people~

Isn’t it funny how you can be going merrily along, most aspects of your life are going well enough, and even though there is this one thing that isn’t perfect you just sort of limp along at less than 100 percent? And then one day, it changes and everything seems a little brighter. Love that!

When I moved into my little condo on the river, it was perfect. My unit is situated so it lets in lots of light from windows on three sides of the house, even though the actual living space isn’t huge, it feels wide open. From the living room, I can see trees and flowers planted all around, as well as the constant parade of people who come from all over to walk the shores of the river.

About nine months ago, the vertical blinds over the patio window stopped working. I noticed that the brackets that hold them up were pulling away of the wall. Being my father’s daughter, I inspected the hardware and could see that they had been installed rather sloppily. In fact, the blinds were barely holding and could break away at any time. Instead of two bolts holding each bracket, just one bolt had been drilled into the plasterboard. I stopped opening the blinds, waiting to repair them. Being rather handy and the daughter of a builder, I tried to fix them myself, but the blinds were too big and unwieldy for one person to repair alone. I told my landlord about the problem, and he came by one day. His solution: he drilled a bigger, single screw into each bracket. This didn’t really work. I told a friendly neighbor about it, and his idea was to re-engineer the whole setup, and at a price by the way, that involved a “trade” that I didn’t want to get mixed up with. I passed. Another friend took a look at it recently, and remarked that he could “probably” fix it. Come on!

Yesterday, I took a day off from work to enjoy the summer day and make a long weekend. I called my friend P, and suggested we go to lunch at a place across the river. We had a great lunch and them came back to my place. “I could fix that,” P said. I knew she could, P had built an entire house with her former husband. “When?” I replied. “Now,” she said. “You got tools?” Oh yeah, I got tools. Long story short and four hours later, I now have beautiful summer light streaming into my living room once again. As I sit writing this post, I’m looking out at my sweet little garden of potted pink geraniums and angel statues, full of joy and gratitude for the friendly, helpful people in my life. Love, C

My two cents: we’re always surrounded by angels, our work is to let them in!

♥♥♥

In the past I have had a hard time asking for help. I never asked for a ride to the airport, a lift to pick up my car from the mechanic, a run to the store when I was feeling sick. I don’t know why, maybe it was that I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone, didn’t want to owe anyone, didn’t want to need anyone. I don’t want to be like that anymore. I don’t want to feel obligated if someone offers to help me. I love to help people if I can, and I never feel like I need to be paid back. So I’m not exactly sure why I felt that others would feel that way.

Everyone wants to be of service, it feels good to be able to help someone who needs help. So as important as it is to be helpful to others, I think it is just as important to allow others to be helpful to you, and to really be in appreciation when they do so. It’s a win-win.

I always tell C when she is planning a big event, “Pray for friendly helpful people.” She is always so busy running around trying to do everything herself; asking the universe to send her the right volunteers just makes things so much easier. I need to remember that in my own life too.

Being a single mom, I am so used to doing everything myself. I’m Mom, Dad, breadwinner, chauffeur, everything. I am lucky I do have a wonderful family who is there for me. But sometimes with them I feel there is a price tag attached, a debt owed that I will be forced to pay back somewhere down the road. Sometimes it seems like they want me to feel that I am ungrateful for what has been done for me so then it doesn’t seem worth it. Ever felt that way?

I know I need to give myself a break, not feel I have to do everything and be everything to everyone. I really want to get to the place where I know that all of my needs are met, everything works out the way it should, and if I need anything at all I can just pick up the phone, or say a little prayer and any assistance I need will be right there, and I will take it. xo-K

My two cents: We never have to feel guilty when we need a little help from our friends.

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